365 Days Later

Ben and I are celebrating one year of marriage today!

In honor of this special day I thought it would be fun to give you 12 things marriage and being married to Ben has taught me over the last 12 months.

1. Guilt doesn't produce closeness, grace does.

2. It's always never a good idea to use never and always.

3. Just because you live together doesn't mean you'll see each other - Plan together time regularly.

4. A face-to-face reminder, a text message, an email, a post-it note (or several) and a carrier pigeon may seem like overkill, but they're not when it comes to making sure Ben knows what we've said yes too.

5. We will always spend money on take-out. Keep it in the budget.

6. Laughing when "sexy-time" isn't in the slightest bit sexy makes it even more fun.

7. Nothing is worth staying mad about - we're either going to be happily married or unhappily married.

8. Try the things the other one loves that you are either horrible at or really don't want to do. It makes for good stories to tell the kids one day.

9. Meet with a trusted friend who can see clearly the things you can't in your marriage regularly. And thank them regularly.

10. Slow to speak, slow to react, fast to support - those musicians can get pretty high up in the sky. Join them as much as you can.

11. I've gotten over the idea of anything about our lives ever being private or a secret.

12. Love is a verb. It speaks the loudest I do the dishes and laundry.

Have a beautiful day!